Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Time, the Avenger (or The Curious Case of the Chrome Codpiece)


All righty this here will be the last limbo blast of this godforsaken year; the final flapper when the fat lady lets her bottom sing an aria like no other, giving OhThirteen a final and definitive "whoosh" into eternity. 
As far as New Year evolutions go, I've been instructed to shut up about my aches, pains, existential nightmares, apocalyptic visions, hemorrhoids etc. if I expect to have any friends at all, and I suspect this is good advice. But, as Alice so wisely observed before she popped that LSD-laced biscuit between her rosy lips, "I often give myself good advice, but I very seldom follow it." Anyway I thought I would give it a try. The LSD-laced biscuit, I mean.
That said, as I was tripping my brains out the other day (oh not really I mean jeez an acid trip at this late stage of the game would prolly be a one way ticket to Napa) I met the most enigmatic, twisted, reptilian motherfucker I've ever seen. I was stretched out in my beach barcalounger down in front of the castle at Stinson, and even though it must have been 70 degrees as it has been the entire second half of December I had on my old navy blue down parka, Pivettas, a flannel and 501s, my filthy hair pasted back under a Giants cap, my Vuarnets held together with Scotch tape, a fifth of Skye in my one of my jacket pockets and a carton of Marlboro reds and a foil of crack in the other. I guess you could say I’ve been having a high school flashback for the past couple of months, but strangely enough it’s not MY high school flashback. Instead I’m pretty sure it’s the late Scott Colburn’s, Mark Menzell's or one of the Barich brothers. I suspect my charade as a seventies stoner playing hooky from auto shop class is what caused this odd fellow to plop down on the sand beside me, pull the vodka bottle out of my left parka pocket and a pack of Reds out of the other - I could only watch, not only completely drunk but now equally dumbfounded. He took a long pull on the sapphire blue Skye bottle - the most tempting bottle of booze I have ever seen with it’s promise of crystal blue persuasion spilling over my inflamed and throbbing cerebral cortex - then shook a stick out of the fresh pack and lit up. I couldn’t help but smile.
“Happy New Year to you too,” I said with a slur that I couldn’t control.
He just continued staring out on the high noon diamond studded Pacific, smoke billowing out of his furry nostrils. After another long pull he said "I don't go much for numerical measurements that mark the passage of time. New Year's being a prime example, right up there with birthdays, anniversaries, memorials, and just dates in general."
I took a long look at him: not your typical beach bum by any stretch in his rhinestone lederhosen, propeller beanie, knee high moccasins and chrome codpiece. Being accosted by such an outfit might normally send me scuttling over to the Sand Dollar for a cup of coffee and a shot of crank, but when this odd little fellow passed the bottle back to me, I froze. 



"You see," he continued, picking tobacco from his tongue, "numbers, measurements, calculations...all pure inscrutable abstraction in my book. What real difference do these measurements make in a life? Do we subscribe to them so we know how to feel, how to act, what to wear, what to say, what music to play, what songs to sing, what colors to don? Of course we do, for without them life would be chaos, wouldn't it?"
He suddenly gripped my leg with his rubber gloved hand. "WOULDN'T IT?"
But I was already far beyond complete catatonia. While he caterwauled against the existence of time, I couldn't help but watch his eyeballs roll around in his sockets like marbles swirling down a funnel and his tongue dart in and out, in and out as if to snare a passing insect. And he couldn't have been more than four feet tall!
As far as I could tell, all was chaos with or without numerical markers. But sitting there as I was in the exact same clothes Scott Colburn or Mark Menzell might have worn to the beach on this absurdly globally warmed New Years Eve day, I felt an upwelling of joyous agreement, a profound yearning to be a member of this enlightened club of humans unfettered by the whims of the calendar and answering only to the movement of the non-numerical sun around the globe; to the turning of the leaves and the great migrations of the fowl; the flow of the tides under the spell of their lunar master; the rhythms of their lungs and beating of their hearts. Who were these enlightened, arithmetic souls that roamed the planet in rhinestone lederhosen and chrome codpieces? Where could I get such a cool outfit? Did they make them for full grown humans?
And then, as if to remind my new friend and I that the rest of the world in their stinking ignorance were
still slaves to time as measured out in seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, years...a earsplittlxngly loud horn atop a fifty foot tower, loud enough to blow a million walls of Jericho to dust, blanketed the beach, the lagoon, the multi-million dollar homes in Seadrift and the little shotgun shacks in the village, the soft-serv snack bar, Ed's Superette; all of it, buried in sound for an entire 30 seconds.
"Ah, well, so much for your escape from the big fat motherfucking clock, eh dude?" I said, chucking him on the...but wait, there was no shoulder to chuck, for my new best buddy had fled, high speed waddling through the sand like the famous TV midget Dr. Loveless at the blowing of the five o' clock whistle. I jumped up in hot pursuit, my Pivettas flying over the sand, shouting "hey, what the fuck, man!" just like James West might have, and it wasn't long before I caught up to the mind-bending midget.
"Hey, what's the big deal?" I said once I had the little monkey pinned. "I thought you had liberated yourself of numbers, your pure abstraction, your enslavement to the clock!"
His eyes were rolling furiously, tongue darting in and out like a lizard.
"Of course!" he hissed. "But there's only three hours and 58 minutes until I have to ring in the New Year, so let me go!" he cried.
"Wait," I said, trying to get a fix on his spinning face, "you're telling me that you...a midget in rhinestone lederhosen, knee high moccasins and a chrome codpiece...you are Father Time?"
"Yes, you idiot! But I won't be for long if you don't let me go! I can't be a nano second late, or the entire universe will be...OFF SCHEDULE!"
And with that the little turd squirmed out of my grasp, just as a Blackhawk helicopter appeared overhead, stirring up clouds of sand, seagulls, snowy plovers, harbor seals, Dungeness crabs, great white sharks, migrating gray whales and oil tankers. Then a rope was cast from the copter, Father Time grabbed on and was swept up in a clouded instant and before I could clear my eyes of sand and grit he was gone, headed no doubt for Times Square where, behind the scenes, he would direct Angela Sotomayer, Chief Justice of the Supreme Court, on the delicate task of pressing  the button that would signal a new marker, another measurement by which the existence of the human race will be tracked, judged, categorized, labeled and rated.
This is all okay by me, as I have slipped into the dubious existence of days long gone by, perhaps even 1972, when Scott Colburn, Mark Menzell and the Barich brothers wore puffy down parkas, Pivetta hiking boots over the ankle, threadbare Levi's, stolen Vuarnets and were never, ever on time for anything.
Another number, this one denoting the 366th consecutive day and thereby triggering a change in the measurement known as a "year", is advancing forward. A meaningless demarcation, perhaps. Another checkmark in the box. A chance to reflect, let bygones be bygones, and screw up various official documents for the next few months.
Let's be nice to each other, make sweet of it, and maybe even pretend that this will be the best year yet.
HAPPY NEW YEAR! 
(...and you thought I would say something puerile and sophomoric like "Happy Nude Queer". Well, I'm giving up poor taste in OhFourteen, which is also the year manatees will learn to fly.)
Jeb








Sunday, December 8, 2013

Mindfulness in The Big Easy, 1960


The Moviegoer 
by Walker Percy

I vaguely remember reading The Moviegoer, The Last Gentleman, and Love in The Ruins in my college years, then The Second Coming shortly after it came out in 1980. Now, listening to Christopher Hurt’s narration of The Moviegoer I’m struck by Percy’s wonderful lyricism, and the obvious care given to the choice of every word, the cadence of the sentences, the natural rhythm of the dialogue ("deftly modulated" according to the book jacket). If Percy was a musician it's not mentioned in any of the biographical information I've found. It's even more surprising that he never published any poetry because, along with John Cheever, he is to my ear and eye one of the greatest metaphor/simile/analogy makers I've ever read.
Once I started re-reading The Moviegoer after all these years I felt as if, as Graham Greene put it, God was "tugging at my sleeve" and saying "pay attention. Your Howard Brown is in much the same boat as young Jack "Binx" Bolling." Had I picked up The Second Coming the connection would have been even tighter, given the similarity in the age and life experiences of Will Barrett and Howard.
The "boat" that the fella tugging at my sleeve is referring to is described in many different ways throughout The Moviegoer, probably the most obvious being events that have left both characters, Binx and Howard, at the precipice of an existential abyss. Percy doesn't belabor the connection between Binx Bolling the injured Korean War vet and Binx the stockbroker in Gentilly but it doesn't take much analysis to infer that the war experience has blown a hole in Binx's sense of belonging to the white southern society in which he lives. Even so, he keeps up appearances and responsibilities, as does Howard. But Howard is no war survivor, at least not in the physical sense.
Howard’s war has been to maintain some sense of dignity and personal pride in a family and professional environment that is consistently pushing him to be something that he is not. His healing will come when he fully understands his own family history and can actually be the person he’s always been, free of judgment and scorecards; in control and free to “self-actualize”.
Percy paints Binx Bolling’s conundrum in different light. His “malaise” as he sometimes calls it springs from the “everydayness” of life and is best challenged with a “search”:

“What is the nature of the search? you ask.
Really it is very simple, at least for a fellow like me; so simple that it is easily overlooked.
            The search is what anyone would undertake if he were not sunk in the everydayness of his own life. This morning, for example, I felt as if I had come to myself on a strange island. And what does such a castaway do? Why he pokes around the neighborhood and he doesn’t miss a trick.
            To become aware of the possibility of the search is to be onto something. No to be onto something is to be in despair.” (p 12)

What I think most people would today recognize as clinical depression - unnamable bouts of melancholy and despair that require some sort of jarring event - like getting shot through the shoulder in a war, or falling in love - is Binx’s primary challenge. It’s also a problem for his cousin, Kate, whom Percy portrays as more obviously bipolar.
            Yet throughout the novel the term “depressed” and “depression” are rarely used. Even the descriptions of Kate’s therapy with Dr. Merle don’t refer to depression as we might refer to it today.
It doesn’t really matter what Binx’s, or Kate’s, or Howard’s inability to get comfortable in his or
her own skin is called. However it’s interesting to observe that the popularization of psychiatry in the last 50 years has demystified the behavior of many famous characters (Emma Bovary and young Dmitri Karamazov come to mind as classic “bipolar” characters). Still, it’s not as if I’m reading of Binx’s “despair” and “malaise” and thinking “a little Zoloft might help”.
Today, if an author is going to create a character that suffers from depression, (as I have with Howard, his sister, their father and characters yet to come), and the character is living in mainstream society vs. the backwoods or the alleys, you really can’t get around the question of “treatment” and the potential effectiveness or ineffectiveness of medications if your character is going to continue acting crazy. Contemporary bipolar characters are interesting because they’re so happy in their mania the last thing they often want to do is take meds that will bring them down. As a result they inevitably get into trouble until their mania subsides, so you end up with a character whose actions are defined by whether they are on or off their meds.
Enough of psychodrama. Back to The Moviegoer and Binx Bolling’s inscrutable search. One thing I find curious about Binx: though he speaks of everydayness as being an enemy to searching, it’s in paying rapt attention to the everyday things that gets him thinking about a search in the first place:

“...I dressed as usual and began as usual to put my belongings into my pockets: wallet, notebook (for writing down occasional thoughts), pencil, keys, handkerchief, pocket slide rule (for calculating percentage returns on principal). They looked both unfamiliar and at the same time full of clues. I stood in the center of the room and fazed at the little pile, sighting through a hole made by thumb and forefinger. What was unfamiliar about them was that I could see them. They might have belonged to someone else. A man can look at this little pile on his bureau for thirty years and never once see it. It is as invisible as his own hand. Once I saw it, however, the search became possible. I bathed, shaved, dressed carefully, and sat at my desk and poked through the little pile in search of a clue just as the detective on television pokes through the dead man’s possessions, using his pencil as a poker.” (P. 12)

            What Binx describes here - the process of seeing, examining, questioning, objectifying an item or collection of items that are as everyday as anything could possibly be - is what some people today might call “mindfulness”, and what Binx also refers to as poking around the neighborhood and never missing a trick.  In becoming mindful of something, in “seeing” it for what feels like the first time, Binx becomes aware of the possibility of a search. Later he refers to it as “the idea of a search”. In other words it is not yet a search, it’s just the idea that there’s something out there, or “in here”, to be found.
            “The movies are onto the search, but they screw it up. The search always ends in despair. They like to show a fellow coming to himself in a strange place - but what does he do? He takes up with the local librarian, sets about proving to the local children what a nice fellow he is, and settles down with a vengeance. In two weeks time he is so sunk in everydayness that he might just as well be dead.” p. 13
It’s the “settling down,” or otherwise not retaining the sense of mystery that accompanies “coming to himself in a strange place” that the movies screw up, according to Binx. Yet consider this passage where what seems like the epitome of everydayness brings a “splendid sense of the goodness of creation”.

“I stroll around the schoolyard in the last golden light of day and admire the building. Everything is so spick-and-span: the aluminum sashes fitted into the brick wall and gilded in the sunset, the pretty terrazzo floors and the desk molded like wings. Suspended by wires above the door is a schematic sort of bird, the Holy Ghost I suppose. It gives me a pleasant sense of the goodness of creation to think of the brick and the glass and the aluminum being extracted from common dirt - though no doubt it is less a religious sentiment than a financial one, since I own a few shares of Alcoa. How smooth and well-fitted and thrifty the aluminum feels!”

Again, this uncommon attention paid to something as plain and everyday as aluminum sashes and the good feeling it evokes in Binx could be interpreted as a moment of mindfulness. The difference, as it develops in the narrative, is in order to search you first have to see what is there - pay rapt attention. A later paragraph gives us a more definitive view of Binx’s “idea” of a search:

“What do you seek - God? you ask with a smile.
I hesitate to answer, since all other Americans have settled the matter for themselves and to give such an answer would amount to setting myself a goal which everyone else has reached - and therefore raising a question in which no one has the slightest interest. Who wants to be dead last among one hundred and eighty million Americans? For, as everyone knows, the polls report that 98% of Americans believed in God and the remaining 2% are atheists and agnostics - which leaves not a single percentage point for a seeker.” (p 14)
 
Binx’s “search” is such a wonderfully common and familiar human trait as well as an equally common literary theme that part of the appeal of The Moviegoer and indeed all of Percy’s work is his uniquely existential, Southern way of characterizing it. By the end of the story, Binx has experienced a transformation that he’s not even aware of himself. But it is apparent in his attitude pertaining to “the search”.

“As for my search, I have not the inclination to say much on the subject. For one thing, I have not the authority, as the great Danish philosopher declared, to speak of such matters in any way other then the edifying. For another thing, it is not open to me even to be edifying, since the time is later than his, much too late to edify or do much of anything except plant a foot in the right place as the opportunity presents itself – if indeed asskicking is properly distinguished from edification.” (p 237)

I don’t think this is the cop out it might appear to be, rather it’s another way of saying that he doesn’t feel the same compulsion as he did in the beginning of the story. Though it’s hard to say that Binx has found what he sought (if only because he doesn’t know or isn’t able to articulate what he’s seeking) it’s safe to say that he has found several things he did not have before – or now “has acquired”, since “found” would imply that he acknowledges and is conscious of these changes, which he does not appear to be.
A contemporary Western Buddhist interpretation might observe that Binx is reaping the benefits
of not only examining his life and himself, but through mindfulness of where he is, he has come to accept where he is, which at any given moment defines who he is. In marrying his cousin Kate (I’m still a little foggy on how the Southern “kissin’ cousins” angle plays here) he finally accepts and becomes comfortable as a member of this quintessentially dysfunctional New Orleans family.
With acceptance comes compassion, and it’s difficult not to interpret his desire to marry Kate as primarily a desire to take care of a very fragile individual that can’t make her own way in the world. Kate claims many times throughout the story that Binx is “worse off”, in terms of mental instability, than she is, even though Kate is a card-carrying manic depressive. Stood next to each other, Binx is a portrait of even-keeled Southern sensibility. But, as Kate knows, Binx is a watcher; a solitary moviegoer that prefers observation to involvement. But his mindfulness of the things and goings-on about him, along with his pursuit of the rich moment (“spinning along the gulf coast”), he manages to get outside of the fear that often paralyzes Kate. She realizes that he understands her, and he realizes that, like a recovering alcoholic picking his drunken comrades up from the gutter, the best way to treat his own fear of the abyss is to focus on caring for someone else who has the same problem.  Sure enough by the end of the story he’s following his aunt’s advice and going to medical school.
Binx Bolling spoke of the possibility of a search as to be “onto something”, and though it appears as though he doesn’t make the connection at the end, his seeking has produced a profound discovery: love. Kate and Binx don’t declare their love for each other. They simply live it by caring for one another. But it is only by paying rapt attention and examining, questioning, seeking, that the right conditions are created for real love to bloom.  It is the mindful everydayness that is constantly tugging at the sleeve: Snap out of it. Open your eyes. Poke around the neighborhood and don’t miss a trick.
The final passage of The Moviegoer is to my mind one of the most beautiful closers I’ve ever read. It portrays the small acts of kindness that ultimately put all of the grand searches into the context of mindful everydayness where, as they say, the rubber meets the road:
Binx says to Kate:
“…Will you do me a favor?”
“What?”
“I’ll be up here all day with Lonnie and the children. Will you go downtown for me and pick up some governments at the office? Your mother has decided again to keep them at home. She thinks that if war comes, her desk is safer than the vault. Will you go?”
“Alone?”
“Yes. You can ride the streetcar down St. Charles. It is nice sitting by an open window.”
“I wouldn’t know what to ask for!”
“You don’t have to. I’ll call Mr. Klostermann and he’ll hand you an envelope. Here’s what you do: take the streetcar, get off at Common, walk right into the office. Mr. Klostermann will give you and envelope – you won’t have to say a word – then catch the streetcar at the same place. It will go on down to Canal and come back up St. Charles.”
“I don’t have any money.”
“Here.”
She considers the quarter in her palm. “Here’s the only thing. It’s not that I’m afraid.” She looks at a cape jasmine sticking through an iron fence. I pick it and give it to her.
“You’re sweet,” says Kate uneasily. “Now tell me…”
“What?”
“While I am on the streetcar – are you going to be thinking about me?”
“Yes.”
“What if I don’t make it?”
“Get off and walk home.”
“I’ve got to be sure about one thing.”
“What?”
“I’m going to sit next to the window on the Lake side and put the cape jasmine in my lap?”
“That’s right”
“And you’ll be thinking of me just that way?”
“That’s right.”
“Good by.”
“Good by.”
Twenty feet away she turns around.
“Mr. Klostermann?”
“Mr. Klostermann.”
I watch her walk toward St. Charles, cape jasmine held against her cheek, until my brothers and sisters call out behind me. (pp 241-242)

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A side note:

It was after reading The Second Coming that I got the notion that “I can do this”, as in write a novel. I was struck by the image of the protagonist, Will Barrett, falling down for no reason while playing golf, and later in the story, the impact the young asylum escapee, Allison, has on the North Carolina lawyer and society man. It stuck with me, and my first stab at writing a novel roughly ten years later was begun on a similar premise: straight-edge corporate droid is nearly crippled when hit by a punk bike messenger in San Francisco and they fall in love. The novel, entitled Crater, was written in some ancient word processing program in 1990 or thereabouts and now looks like this:

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I imagine I can find some geek to decode it.
I didn’t start Hack until 1999 and by then Crater was already gobbledygook.



Friday, November 8, 2013

Is Straight Talk on Depression Too Much for The Mainstream?

I like blogging on The Huffington Post, though as a satirist I'm really kind of a fish out of water there, and I don't know of any other "open" sites. I also don't get the four digit page views, nor have I built a considerable following, and the people that comment generally don't understand satire, but I post there anyway, when they'll have me, on the off chance that I'll get hired by somebody to write more of the same or that I'll sell a few books.

The post below, like "The Kick", is somewhat stark and some people might think it makes light of depression (which I address in the post). Suffering from chronic depression myself, I think I'm qualified to write about the approach I use to avoid acting on the uglier thoughts that bubble up from the cauldron of bad chemicals. Huff Post would probably agree, but something is causing them to shy away.

So I lob the question out to the three or four people that might read this: why don't they publish this post?




The Cure for Depression. Really?


The other day I read a blog by Les, a “youthful” UK self-help blogger - it was his personal epiphany, really - where he claimed to have discovered the secret to eternal happiness. The secret? Live in the moment. The past and the future do not exist. Sound familiar?


He didn’t really elaborate on the nature of that happiness if you might be getting whomped upside the head with a baseball bat in the current moment, but the instant any given whomp is over, it is in the past. It doesn’t exist anymore and all is well so long as you’re not too anxious about the whomp you know is right around the corner.


I know somebody that would say “no wonder you’re so miserable all the time, Mr. Limboman. You’re so negative. Somebody says they’re happy living in the moment and you immediately go to gettin’ whomped upside the head with a baseball bat. What’s wrong with you?”


What’s “wrong”, I guess, is that my experience has been that not all moments are created equal (eg: “whomped upside head with baseball bat”). However if you surf around a bit you’re likely to find that high percentage of very popular blogs (Les has several thousand followers, Marc & Angel are in the millions, I have about 60) are geared toward learning how to string together as many blissful moments as possible and thus lead a life of 24 x7 happiness. You might also characterize these words of wisdom as “baseball bat avoidance tactics”.


I read this stuff myself pretty regularly because when it comes to black dog* attacks I need all the help I can get. I can also attest that when the black dog has you in his slobbery jaws no amount of living in the moment is going to call that puppy off. Why? Because you have a vicious dog’s teeth in your neck and it hurts, that’s why.


In my famously irrelevant opinion, we more mature folk that are stricken with bad chemicals, misfiring synapses and rotten neurons (chronic pain is optional) have had to learn to ride the black pup (or we’re not around by now to talk about it.) It isn’t about this moment, or the moment a moment ago, or the next moment; it’s about sheer tenacity, perseverance, and an ability to get as far away from the current painful moment as possible by going to the past, or the future, or someplace else that has a no dog policy.


Dog management also entails a certain amount of self control. Probably the most important piece of advice I’ve ever read in any self help book anywhere was in Richard Carlson’s “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff (And It’s All Small Stuff)”. His advice had to do with recognizing “low moods” and being extra vigilant, extra careful not to act on the impulse of a low mood.


For those of us that periodically wrestle with very large, stinky, and dirty black dogs with very sharp teeth, this advice is directed at the impulse to aerate our heads with a bullet hole. Big dog wrestlers know that when we’re pinned to the ground by those big paws and  getting blasted in the face with fetid dog breath, it’s not the best time to decide whether to get a divorce, or a vasectomy, or to submit our resignation (I offered to “step aside” in a misunderstanding recently - I was depressed - and dismissed…) or get a tattoo.


Another thing I like to keep in mind when scavenging for dog repellent: none of us are writing blog posts or books or Hallmark cards when Blackie is in the house. Or, we may be writing all sorts of odes to our four-legged tormentor, but it’s not stuff we’re likely to share. Misery may love company in the analog world, but a blog post entitled “10 Most Popular Suicide Techniques” isn’t not likely to stimulate a lively online discussion (though it is certain to spark some morbid curiosity.)


I like Les. It sounds like his heart is in the right place. And he’s absolutely right when he claims that a surefire cure for depression is to live in the moment. After all, nobody knows better than a boomer that mindfulness is the almighty elixir for the tired and wayward soul, and that fighting bad chemicals with more bad chemicals is just one more way to distract us from the proverbial now.


But when that hundred pound black cur is sitting on your head it’s just not the kind of moment you really want to be living in for too long. Best perhaps to substitute a moment from our imaginations, leave the current unpleasantness in the past, and pray that the dogcatcher shows up in the near future.   


*a metaphor for depression


Now, if you have time go read "The Kick" to see what similarities there are, if any. Is the subject matter just too morbid?

Saturday, October 12, 2013

Goodbye, Bob

If you’re lucky, you get at least one whack neighbor in your life (and if you’re a writer you’re super lucky!) Doesn’t have to live right next door, just has to be someone in the hood that everybody tolerates up to a certain point and avoids like leprosy the rest of the time. Ours was Bob. In our family all we had to do was roll our eyes and say “different worlds” and we knew one of us had just recently had a “Bob attack”. 

I read today that old Bob had indeed moved on to a different world about a month ago, according to the Marin Independent Urinal obits. I was saddened and surprised to hear that Bob, at age 87, just two years older than my Dad when he checked out, was gone. Saddened because old Bob was really a helpless, desperately lonely widower with a disturbing Rube Goldberg face of unmatched features who also had no compunction invading our privacy at all hours for some harebrained, spastic dilemma he had conjured over on his side of the fence that required immediate assistance. And surprised because even though he looked like he had been buried under mud, rocks, sticks and dog turds for the last decade, he was incredibly spry. When he got all of his arthritic joints moving in relative concert he could get from his back door to our front door in 3 minutes flat, and never once did he use the phone. Whatever was on his mind - he got an extra copy of the Gazette in the mail and did we want it? Or could he move his trash can a couple of feet closer to ours just this once because his cat was lost? Whatever it was, the only way to deal with it was face to face. And so he got his workout at least once a day, sometimes several, doing his cattywumpus shuffle in his fire engine red jacket from his driveway to ours. How could such a committed, hands-on problem solver just up and die?

I also can’t help but feel profoundly fortunate for having lived next door to Alaska Bob just when he needed a new neighbor the most: his wife of several centuries was on her deathbed when we moved in around August of 2005 and made her escape (the neighbors claimed that Bob was somewhat vocally critical of Helen’s general existence) just a week or so before Christmas. So I considered us doubly blessed: not only had we moved next door to the neighborhood “drunken Republican curmudgeon”, but now he was freshly widowed too! 

But it wasn’t long until Bob remarried. He even took advantage of California’s new permissive views 
on gay civil unions and hooked up with an old buddy he had been out of touch with ever since he married Helen: Johnny Walker!* (He even took his brother Hiram in for an extended stay, as well as their cousin Jim Beam.) It wasn't long until he forgot Helen altogether, except when he couldn't find something, which happened every time we either "sprung forward" or "fell back", because he couldn't find the instructions that belonged to the 40 year old GE Oven. Why would someone need oven operating instructions every time we switched from Daylight to Standard back to Daylight time? Because the instructions were the only way to figure out how to change the time on the goddamned oven clock! So there I was, twice a year, setting Bob's oven clock which I doubt he could even see - given his phenomenally fucked up eyes I was surprised he could see anything at all. They were so walleyed and out of whack that he couldn't even get glasses that worked. Which all would have been heartbreaking if Bob had possessed one tiny iota of basic manners and hadn't been such a hilariously incompetent sad sack. It didn't matter if I was sitting on the can - Bob could wait until I could come over to his kitchen with him and set his fucking clock. 

I guess we were triply lucky then, for our whack neighbor wasn't only a step n' fetchit, drooling, half-blind, half-deaf pain-in-the-ass, but he made us all wonderfully angry! If we were driving home and we saw Bob out on the street stalking the neighbors we would drive around the block until the coast was clear. On the weekends when we generally farted around outside we would leave the garage door open which Bob found super convenient because he didn't have to walk all the way around the house to our front door, he could just walk right through to the kitchen door that led to garage and pound away. If we weren't fast enough to answer he would come bargin' in yellin' "Hullo!? Anybody here?" (he never did learn our names). Of course he knew someone was there because the garage door was open, clearly beckoning to passersby to come in, fill up their bike tires and have a couple of beers. We never ever offered him a beer for fear that he would end up a permanent fixture in our guest room, having forgotten where he lived. At least then we could make sure he didn't have any spittle running down his chin when he went out to harass the other neighbors. 

Bob's apparent lack of training in civilized discourse was always puzzling, for not a Bob attack went by that wasn't accompanied by one of about a dozen anecdotes in his repertoire, all of which featured Bob in the hero's role to varying degrees. The one that sent him on his path - he was a fireman, an EMT, and after retiring from the force an insurance salesman - is the story of a sledding accident near his hometown of Juneau where he managed to pilot the sled into an obstacle in such a way and with such force that a 12-penny nail was driven directly into his temple, causing one side of his lovely visage to appear caved-in and also disrupting the muscles and optic nerves such that the eye basically had a mind of it's own. 

Sometimes I wonder how Bob managed to serve in his public safety capacity all those years with a nail in his temple. Apparently all the kids at Bob's Catholic Church up in Juneau were expected to give blood, and Bob (it's no wonder) had a unique variety: O negative with a side of O Henry. Whatever it was one of the nuns - Sister Mary Katherine - would call Bob's Dad at all hours of the night and instruct him to tell Bob to get his ass down to the hospital, often at 2AM after some local had been brained with a pool cue and sliced up with a fish filleting knife. So off Bob would go on his bicycle down the icy hill where he would just lock up his brakes and fishtail all the way down to the hospital, where Sister Mary Katherine's nurse flunkies would stick him and he would get drained for an hour or so, and then after a few cookies and a glass of brandy he would try and ride back up the hill. By the time he got home it was usually time to go to school, and, according to Bob, Sister Mary Katherine expected him to be there on time. 

Imagine how lucky we felt to be able to hear this story at least once a week if not more, told as if he were telling it for the first time, every time! When he wrapped up his anecdotes with his trademark closer: "different worlds", we really couldn't help but say "no shit!" But when he wasn't waxing eloquent about his days in Juneau, or about how he met Helen at the Irwin St. Blood Bank in San Rafael where she was a nurse (obviously he liked women in white who stuck him, sucked his blood, and later gave him booze), another weekly refresher, he was complaining about the perpetually late and getting later daily delivery of the mail. This would have been a perfectly normal driveway discussion (we didn't have any sidewalks on Hidden Valley Road and the moms would go racing down there to drop off and pick up their kids via the back door like they were channelling Dale Earnhardt, so we took refuge in the driveways) had it not been for the fact that Bob had a PO Box in downtown San Anselmo, where he picked up his mail daily. But he also had a mailbox which only received junk mail, in which he took an unusually enthusiastic interest, as if perhaps he was expecting Ed McMahon to reincarnate himself in his mailbox with a check for the Publisher's Clearinghouse Sweepstakes.

 So almost every day Bob would show up at our door: "Ya git yer mail yet?" he would demand in his
drunken southern Alaska twang. This would entail either my wife or myself (since I work at home) checking to see if our mailbox flag was up or down. If it was up and we had not retrieved our mail yet, Alaska Bob was always eager to retrieve it for us, since he was already roaming the streets, and his mailbox was at the other end of the block. There were a couple of times when I had to tell old Bob, who was so sweet in his hunched over spastic drooling way, that he had better keep his stinking mitts off of my mail, and that it was a federal offense for him to so much as touch my fucking mailbox. This we did in the sort of sensitive fashion one might expect of responsible adults who were in the process of losing their own aging parents. Since Bob was admittedly about 80% deaf, I might have taken a few liberties just for laughs, but unlike my wife claims, I never called him a "snow monkey" to his face. If I did, he probably smiled and said "different worlds". 

Perhaps it was his deafness that made him such a fan of Bon Tempe and other various live music projects that rehearsed in my garage. He would come over and sit on the stone wall and tap his foot, insisting that he "enjoyed it" and asking weekly when the band would be back. All the guys in the band shot the shit with him for a little while, or at least until they realized they were getting reruns of their previous conversation. Old Bob didn't give a damn when whatever he was jawing about actually happened, he was just happy to have the company. 

It's true, to Alaska Bob everything beyond his lonely life in the big deserted family home in Sleepy Hollow, leave-it-to-Beaver-land USA, was a "different world". He spoke of guys that he would exchange real letters with (which may explain his obsession with the mailbox) who were dying off in droves. Every week it was another high school friend from Alaska, but my favorite was the guy who married a Mormon who insisted that if she was to marry him he would have to give up the sauce, which he did, according to Bob, for over sixty years. When she died he followed in short order, pickling his liver in under a year. "Different worlds" is right, Bob. One a sober, long arduous ride up an icy hill, and the other a fishtailing downhill run. 

It's hard to picture our old neighborhood on Hidden Valley Lane without picturing Alaska Bob doin' his step n' fetchit shuffle in his bright white tennies and jeans, plaid shirt and red jacket, head always lolling to the right - maybe the weight of the nail throwing him off a bit. We were lucky to have made a brief visitation to Alaska Bob's world and get our share of surprise Bob attacks - I think a lot of the other neighbors were missing out, or they just wrote him of as a crazy SOB who would just waste their time with his goofy stories about his Uncle's labs (save that for next time) and changing his goddamn clocks. I don't know that I consciously considered what it must of been like for old Bob in his big boxy multi-level sixties-modern house with all the original Modern Eye furniture, talking to his cat and, as the day wore on his companion, Johnny. I guess that interior world explains a lot of Bob's behavior when he broke out of his prison and hit the street, for it was quite a different world just outside his front door. 

I suppose if I were gonna get all mushy and sentimental about it I would thank the cosmic powers that placed Bob on our chessboard, and of course thank Bob himself for leaving evidence of his own twisted Alaska shuffle indelibly printed on mailboxes the world over. 

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If you ever wonder where a writer gets his ideas for the various characters that may populate a story or a novel, there ya have it. I've already slotted Alaska Bob into several episodes of The Healing of Howard Brown which probably won't publish until early 2015

*Personally I think it would have been hilarious if Bob took up with Johnny Walker Black, and equally hilarious if he took up with Johnny Walker Red. But such an observation would surely be judged as "racist", for it seems in today's world a writer can't even acknowledge the existence of race without being labeled a racist. So I'll just say that he took up with Johnny Walker Red, a Native American childhood friend from Juneau, and leave any mention of Johnny Walker Black up to your imagination.
Still as harebrained as the day it was written. Go get it on Amazon now!